How to Politely Send Food Back at a Restaurant
We've all been there: your food arrives, and something's wrong. Maybe your steak is rare instead of medium, or there's an unexpected ingredient you can't eat. Sending food back can feel awkward, but sometimes it's totally necessary. Here's how to do it without coming across as difficult.
When It's Totally OK to Send Food Back
If your order is wrong, undercooked, or missing an ingredient, you have every right to send it back. Restaurants want you to enjoy your food, so if the dish doesn't match what you ordered or expected, speak up. This is especially true if you have dietary restrictions or an allergy — most places are understanding and would rather fix it than risk a health issue.
When It's Better to Just Roll With It
If you've already eaten most of the meal, or if it's only a minor issue, it might be best to let it slide. Sending back a half-eaten plate can come across as a little shady, and most restaurants don't offer do-overs on nearly finished dishes. Plus, if someone else is picking up the check, especially in a formal setting, consider holding off unless there's a big problem.
Be Friendly, Be Clear
Once you decide to send food back, keep it simple! Politely say something like, "I'm sorry, but this isn't cooked as I ordered — could it be redone?" or "I actually have an allergy to this ingredient; could it be swapped?" People in the industry say they appreciate honest, direct feedback, especially if it's given in a friendly tone. A little "please" and "thank you" go a long way in showing you're not trying to make a scene, just enjoying your meal.
Skip the Refund Request
Leave the choice of refund or replacement up to the server or manager. You don't need to demand a discount; let them take the lead on making it right. Some diners find that not asking for money back actually gets them better service and often a solution without any fuss.
If They Fix It, Show Some Love
If the kitchen replaces your dish, a quick thank you goes a long way. This simple gesture tells them you appreciate the effort and keeps things positive for everyone involved. If your experience ends on a good note, it doesn't hurt to leave a good tip or mention the great service — restaurants love that kind of feedback.
Sending food back doesn't have to be a big deal. As long as you're clear, kind, and know when to pick your battles, it's just part of making sure your meal is what it should be.
References: How to Send Food Back Without Being a Jerk | When it's OK to send food back to the kitchen—and when it's not, from an ex-restaurant manager
